Relationship Problems - How to Stay Together

Relationship problems - how to stay together is still a question for many couples on the brink of collapse.

With the sustained rise in relationship problems splits and divorce still on the rise, couples are still not getting the message of how to stay together. If they keep on doing what they have been doing, then they will keep getting what they away got - more problems! Lets look at what’s happening and what needs to change.

Imagine for a moment what is important to you in your life. What would you miss if it wasn’t there? Home, job, husband, wife, partner, money I’m sure you can list many more.

So what do you do on a regular basis to make sure you keep all of those things?

• If you have a home I expect you pay the rent or the mortgage each month because if you didn’t you would lose it.
  
• If you have a job then if you did not do your best and turn up each day then you would lose that job. What you are doing is applying the right focus to those things to make sure you keep them.

The shocking truth

What would have to happen for you to lose your relationship? The shocking truth is just carry on doing what you’re doing. It’s the best route to disaster. I have read several studies that all point to the same conclusion. Couples do not talk to each other. The reports are suggesting that couples spend on average 20 minutes per week or 3 minutes a day in focused meaningful conversation.

Think back to when you were dating. How much time did you spend in meaningful conversation and focused fun? If your date was 2/3 hours that’s a lot of time and energy spent on you both. So why did you do that?

You did it because you had a goal. That goal was more dates, sex, love, marriage, great feelings, and fun, we all have our own agendas. But the bottom line was you felt great about you, your future and your partner. By dating, you created hope.

Where have your goals gone?

Now ask yourself how exciting does you future look now? If it does not look great and you are now bored you are entering the relationship danger zone. You can also guarantee that if you are feeling bored or unhappy then your partner is too. The less you communicate the worse it gets and before you know it either one of you is dreaming of a different life or an affair is on the horizon. The next step is to blame your partner or the relationship. You will feel resentment of not getting the life you thought you were going to get and this is likely to turn into a lack of respect. Once you get to that stage a break-up is very likely, is that what you really want?

We have nothing to talk about!

Many couples complain that they have nothing to talk about and they are right, they have different jobs roles and lives the common factor they have is live under the same roof so what can they talk about? Kids, money, their day, the grass needs cutting, no wonder they don‘t want to talk.

So what did they discuss when they were first dating? What they talked about then was their future, they created exciting goals, of future dates, weekends away, great nights out. Then these goal progressed to living together getting married, getting rich! Who knows what it was that excited you about your future with your partner but something did. Without goals, there would be no second date or a relationship and you can’t create goals if you don’t talk. Creating an exciting life together is your goal, this is where you start.

You have not lost your love you have lost your future.

You have not lost your love or your passion you are basically still the same people you both fell in love with, but by not communicating you have both successfully killed the relationship without realising. This is not the fault of the relationship it is the fault of the actions or lack of them.

You have heard people say

“We need to split up because this relationship is going nowhere”.
In translation it means that the couple has not created goals for their future, Therefore neither one can’t see a future so the conclusion is the relationship must be wrong.

Very oftern this is a cry for help.

What has happened is you have both failed in applying the very thing your relationship needs for it to survive, an exciting future. Create that first and in return you will both create fulfilled lives littered with fantastic memories rather than poor ones you might already have.

Start today, sit with your partner, and create a life together. What have you always dreamed of doing both personally and in the relationship? Decide and design the life you both want and then take the steps to achieve that life. Create small steps towards those bigger goals and work together at it.

Now you have lots to talk about and an exciting future of possibilities. In this world of plenty, the opportunities are endless. Get excited together, go, and get the life you know you both deserve.

Take action now and rediscover yourself and your partner again. Click “free relationship advce” to discover more ways to stay together and fast!

Body language of desire - Examples on Body Langauge

Body language of desire can tell you know if your date is really attracted to you.

This Body language of desire secret is Steve Hedger’s favorite. Body language & relationship coach has listed below a great way to discover see who is attracted to you. I have many more top body language tips for you so you know who is interested in you without a word being exchanged. You can also use these tips to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex.

So let’s get going, have fun and enjoy!

When you really fancy the pants off someone you just met, it is an amazing feeling. But unless you know if the feelings are reciprocated then this is also very frustrating.

You just want to know “So do you fancy me or not?” But you just can’t ask that! Well…you can ask what you want, but that is not a question that will help either of you. Your answers are right there in front of you. People give off unspoken signals constantly and when you are on a date it is like a firework display. But only if you know what to look for! In this first tip we are going to look at attraction through body language eye contact.

The eye contact body language of desire gives the game away.

Lets start with some little known signals. The eyes are a big give-a-way. What you’re after is a combination of body language and eye contact. We will come onto more body language secrets later in this series, but for now we will focus on the eyes. Most of us have heard that dilated pupils mean attraction and this is true, but this can be confused by low lighting that can also affect our eyes this way. A sure fire way to notice attraction is to look for glassy eyes. When someone is aroused by another their body creates moisture in the genital region, what you may not know is, this moisture also builds up in the eyes, giving a glassy appearance. If you get this, yes they are very attracted to you.

You next observation will be to watch the movement of the eyes. Watch how their eyes move around your face. Notice how they move when you first meet and check what happens as the date progresses. What you are looking for is a triangular eye movement, that will go from one eye to a body part and back to the other eye. This eye body language will tell you alot about your dates intentions.

Eye body language of desire explained:

• Eye to nose to eye - This is a social eye pattern and if this is what you get, then it looks like your just friends. However, still watch to see if this changes into a different pattern as the date progresses.
• Eye to mouth to eye -This means there is more attraction as the mouth is a sexual area.
• Eye to chest to eye - Definite attraction with a desire to explore.
• Eye to genitals to eye - Very full on sexual thoughts.If you are receiving either of these signals, you will now know what is on your dates mind.

This eye contact and body language of desire little known secret really works. It’s so nice to see who might be interested in you so I hope you enjoyed this tip body language tip for the eyes. There are many more tips like this when you enter your details in the boxes below. Share this secret with your friends and create a great night out!

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