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Stephen Hedger is a relationship and dating coach.
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Certified in NLP Coaching, Sequential mind technology, Hypnosis.
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42 Married and living in the UK.
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My professional coaching journey started 10 years ago.
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My passion has always been understanding human behaviour in the context of relationships. I can remember from the age of eight wondering who my wife would be, relationships have always been very important to me. This drive in me to understand how relationships work was borne of my own personal frustration and pain of getting relationship so very wrong. I was fed up of not understanding the dynamics and communication skill necessary to ensure a happy future.
I discovered that my head was fixed on the moment. I felt great when I first met someone but quickly discovered that feeling was not a lasting one. In short, I had no idea how relationships worked. Getting dates was the easy bit, but making them last was another matter.
I also chose the wrong people, but to be honest I never really thought about what I needed to be happy, I just went with the flow, if I felt good I stayed if I didn‘t I went.
After years of jumping from relationship to relationship, I had had enough. So I visited a coach who gave me a very different perspective on my life that I had not considered, and after many sessions I knew that this was my route to understanding the one thing that was causing my life so much pain., relationships! He introduced me to NLP and I quickly discover that this amazing understanding of the mind was the route for me. I was impatient, this got results, and fast, this is what I wanted.
My NLP training opened up a whole new world of self-discovery for me. Hungry for knowledge I spent years with the right know how learning more and more about how relationships worked and why they didn’t. I discovered the importance of planning, values, understand positive intentions, communication strategies, boundaries and so much more. I learnt about body language and every part of the process of two people meeting that I could.
I was single at this point and I unleashed all these learning on my dating. It helped me to quickly discover what I wanted and established if we were a good match very early on. It was a great journey of discovery. Now I felt in control for the first time ever. Dates were no longer a drama but an adventure.
I was now using all of my personal experiences and training in local clinics to help others discover how to understand firstly themselves and then how to communicate that to their dates or partners and create relationships that really worked. I loved the process and watching people create their own inspirational journeys was such a buzz for me.
By applying all that I had learnt and I learn more and more every day. I found “the one” I was looking for, she is now my wife. She is a total inspiration for me on every level we are a brilliant match and I could not be happier. Every day we work on our relationship to ensure that what we have found stays.
This didn’t happen by chance, by applying the right attention to my life I change the life path I was on to one that worked for me and what’s great is you can do this too.
